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Desperately Seeking a (new) Boyfriend
March 10, 2010
I got this email the other day. The girl who wrote it feels hurt and rejected because her boyfriend just dumped her. She's flipping out a little so her idea of what's going to solve her problem makes about as much sense as... well, why not just read it for yourself?
Hey Terra,
My boyfriend recently broke up with me (over the phone!) and I'm still really heart-broken and don't know how to get over him. Also there's this other guy who's in the school play with me. I've liked him even before I started going with my ex. On Saturday the play ends. I probably won't see him anymore after that so Saturday is my last chance to get things started with him. Should I tell him how I really feel even though we don't know each other very well???
Desperate Dina
Hi Dina,
I understand how upsetting it is to have someone break up with you. You're hurting. I get that. It's normal to feel that when you've been rejected. But this is NOT the time to jump into a new relationship. You are way too vulnerable. And maybe even a little confused in your thinking. Going up to the guy in the play and telling him you like him is just... dumb. Don't go there! You're setting yourself up for another rejection. Give yourself a break from guys. You can do that, can't you?
In friendship,
Terra
Hey Terra,
Thank You!! I listened to your advice and it made major sense... I guess I was just really upset about how my ex just up and broke up with me that I decided the only way I could heal is if I just went out and found someone new when the thing I really needed to do was take a long clear look at what it was I was really after... Someone who could replace my ex. Now I know that that's NOT something I need to do and I am learning to acccept myself for who I really am...... although I really do struggle with low self esteem. More »
